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... they also like to have fun and feel excited. (Identity_X)
...adding a little more assertiveness and you might see a big difference in the way women react. (Gina)
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I've always tried to be a "Nice guy" and have been consequently taken
advantage of by all walks of life all my life. (Eddie)
... the nice guy may be labeled as one who is easily taken advantage of. (Raffaele)
... provided they don't fall victim to Doormat Syndrome, of course. (schlock)
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... someone is described as 'nice' when they have few other redeeming features. (Stephen Botha)
... that when some women say "you're a nice guy" they mean "you're ONLY a nice guy." (Henry B. Messenger)
When my friends and I describe a guy as being a "nice guy", it usually means that it is his predominant trait, by far. And because he is so nice, an obligation to describe him in complimentary terms is felt. (Susan 9999)
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Often, and I mean "Often" times a nice guy is forgotten by many,
especially when there is heated debate going on ... (Eddie)
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Though niceness is seemeingly so good, ... it may give a (right or
wrong) idea of weakeness.
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However, because I am reserved and introspective, ..., I may be considered
by many to be boring.
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The truth is that women prefer men with numerous faults that they can
exploit:it justifies a woman sleeping around if her SO is doing it too. (mpoconnor7)
It's been my experience that both men and women exploit a real or perceived "unfaithfulness" on the part of their partners to reationalize and justify their own behaviors. (Nicholas Temple)
... we use the actual or perceived behaviors of others to justify doing wha we want to do. (Nicholas Temple)
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... there seems to be an amazing disconnect in the modern American woman's
mind between what she says she wants and what she actually gets involved
with.
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My observation is that many women want a man who makes them feel that
they are having an adventure, or a movie romance.
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Being nice also doesn't mean that you can't be confrontational. (Jon)
... there is nothing that says he cant raise his voice.... (Jan)
...it does not mean a man is not a nice guy because he has an argument with me... (Jan)
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They *do* seem to like a challenge, particularly the concept of making the
bad guy into a nice guy.... (Robin)
The women seem to want to find a nice guy, but are more attracted to the Not so Nice guys and then feel that they can change them. (Lone Wolf)
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And I have heard that those who like to rush into marrying often do so in order to lose their identity and adopt that of their spouse's. (Brad)
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People often get involved in relationships simply to compensate for a deficiency in themselves.
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... I've adapted to the social environment by being nice. (Mike J)
The a.a Standard Model of Human Interaction asserts that it's a social dominance thing, that guys who are "nice" are that way because they're basically losers and rejects (e.g. gamma males), and that's how they get by without getting the *%!@ beat out of them on a daily basis. (Henry B. Messenger)
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... not-nice guys ARE vulgar.
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Nice guys worry about their language, about their manners, about offending
a woman, about how other people feel.
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I think it's more the romantic ideal of the one true love that makes people see things that aren't there, and rush into marriage with the blind enthusiasm that love now is love always.